OK, so you want to spare your partner’s feelings, but your feelings matter too (if not more) in this situation. You have a right to set boundaries in a relationship and have them respected – these can relate to so many things, not just sex. Be clear and truthful about those boundaries, let your partner know it’s not because you don’t love them or you want to hurt him or her, but you are not ready at this point. A partner who cares about and respects you won’t pressure you to have sex before you’re ready. Just remember, you can’t control your partner’s reaction and it could be a deal breaker for them, but your boundaries are IMPORTANT and should be respected.