Blessers, Sugar Daddies, transactional sex. These are some of the ways to describe the same thing. Transactional sex occurs when money, gifts or favours are exchanged for sex. This type of relationship is different from commercial sex. Relationships between blessers and their blessees usually involve older individuals with younger people, and can last for a prolonged period.
One of the biggest issues when it comes to Sugar Daddies is the kind of relationship it creates. Power is key, and when you exchange gifts for sex then the control can seem to lie with the one splashing the cash. This can make it difficult to negotiate safe sex, as receiving gifts may make people feel like they have to give in to any requests made by their blesser, including having sex without a condom.
The control which an older person has over their younger partner can lead to manipulation, emotional harm and physical violence. It can also lead to serious health issues. By not using a condom, transactional sex can lead to STIs and unwanted pregnancies. Sugar Daddies are also more likely to have multiple partners, increasing the likelihood of them spreading HIV or other STIs.
Health concerns, emotional abuse and a feeling of powerlessness can suck the glamour out of your life of ‘luxury’. It can be nice receiving money, gifts and favours, but when it comes to your physical, emotional and personal well-being, these things can hardly be compared. As time passes, life’s finer things fade, but you’ll have to live with the consequences of your actions for the rest of your life. It’s worth asking: are you truly blessed?